Saturday, August 18, 2007Y
early in the morning..
about 20 mins ago, one of my aunt called me that my grandpa is sick and is sent/sending to the hospital. both my parents are at home now, so she told me to ask my parents to call her back..
its been almost 10 years, or to be exact 7 years since his stomach cancer operation and he survived it, but soon got sicken with parkiston disease, and other old people's illness. through these 7 years, there were quite a few scares and numerous hospital stays for him.
prior to his cancer, we were rather close, he often bought me out on mini-road trips, bought me food that i like, my favourite honey from china when he went back to visit, played board games with me, and when i was much younger, he was the human shield from my mummy's cane when i was naughty.. i can say he's one of the most doting grandpa in singapore.
but after his illnesses, we drifted apart.. why? many many factors...
first, language barrier. he suddenly don't understand chinese or rather his chinese became very limited and i on the other hand, cannot communicate well in hokkien.
second, he became pretty much a pest. he seems to seek attention like a little child... by calling people to help him do things, eg bring him a cup of water, help him wear his clothes, fetch him his walking aid, etc. its not that i mind helping his run these little "errands". but would you mind if he keep calling you every other 5 mins to help him do things? i am not a patient person i don't mind if you one shot tell me to do things, but what he does is after helping him with the first errand, you just sat down on the couch and he will call again.. this repeats a few times.....
he doesn't care if i am studying or not, in the toilet or sleeping. when he calls, i must rush to him... if i don't respond, he will "hunt" me down. if i are sleeping, he will wake me up.
some of my friends and my cousins don't understand how fustrating it can be and tell me to understand him... these stuffs have been ongoing for 7 years.. all my patience and understanding has already been drained away looong time ago.. sometimes when my cousins say thoughtless things, i really feel like retorting back to them.. tell them to let him stay with them for 2 weeks.. lets see whesther they opinion changes...
ok.. i think i shall stop ranting about him and wish for the best....
9:22:00 am.
